Unity Picnic 2017




I had the extreme pleasure of attending the 4th Annual Unity Picnic at the Christopher Street Pier.

This event was a big success but who can expect anything less when the team NYC Black Pride members puts their heads together to make magic With Lee Soulja, KoKo, Redd, and Frankie Paradise doing this kind of joint venture everyone is bound to have a great time.



Lee who sits as the executive Director of the NYC Black Pride committee which I have the pleasure of sitting on along with so many others to make thing happen every year for the NYC Black Pride season. It’s true joy to work with this team to bring a full week of events. Lee Soulja is so much more than the ED of NYC Black Pride but he also heads the House of Soulja and with his housemates continue to make strong statements in the house lives matter to further this movement. Lee also promotes many events throughout the year, and is incredible with his visuals costumes that catches the eyes of all the lay them upon him. The love he has for his community can never be in question.

“Let The Music Play” was not just a catchy title by Shannon but a tune that would make people get up and dance back in the day. Today Frankie Paradise who was always a well employed DJ on the NYC…… scene played tracks from that era all the up until what’s popular today. Knowing him over the years has been one of my greatest pleasures.

Red Desmond Thomas is someone new I’ve just started knowing as we both sit on the NYC Black Pride committee together, and I can say he’s always will to stand in support of his community, and has strong ties. During the Unity Picnic all Ii could was him doing everything he could do to make the event go smooth, and smooth is just what it was. He quotes on the events page these words, and I can’t agree with him more.

"There is no such thing as a "broken family." Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and or adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you. [C. JOYBELL]"

With just about 300 family members in attendance from all generations within the community everybody had a great time, and enjoy one another as a family. I have a great time, and loved seeing all the legend that were present along with so many people I have not seen in years…… I love meeting new people, and look forward to developing great relationships with them as part of my extended family. See you next year!

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Pop A Top

Pop A Top


Tops can be some very interesting men!

Someone once told me if you get hit up by a top that mean he is not a true top. What is a true top? One who has never been fucked (Virgin to the dick), one who has but made a conscience chose not to get fucked, or is a true top someone who is afraid of dick because they know it’s painful when getting dicked. You know the ones that doesn’t know what he is doing & think their serving up some good dick. As many people as I have asked over the years I always get a different answer from each. I would have to guess everyone has a different opinion to this question.

The very last top that came to visit me claimed he has never been penetrated, but curious to know what it felt like to be fucked. I was more them happy to accommodate him. I first had to ask him if he knew how to prepare himself to take dick? No was his answer! Interesting bottoms never really tell tops the preparation that goes into allowing them to get fucked. Well that is if you’re a clean bottom. Many bottoms have self-respect and won’t paint a top. What’s interesting is some top like to be painted! They are few and far between but do exist. I handed him a fleet & told him what to do.

He took an hour in the bathroom to clean out and get freshly showered, and he looked so good walking towards me with his big black dick hanging and swinging from side to side. Made me pause for a hot moment and wonder myself what it might feel like to take dick again. I have not been touched in 34 years but back in the day I did enjoy the touch of a man. Those were the day but long gone.

In conclusion if you’re a top and make the first move and hit up this top top you should be ready to take his dick. If you are the top who wants to pop a top you might be in for a long and hard battle for I know what side of the fence I roll on, and until the one steps up and does what it takes to get it it’s not going happen. At the end of the day to get this is not impossible but will take work, and if you not willing to put in the work you will never pop this top.


BeBop W/Pride
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Big Dick Chasers

Tops beware: 

In my life I have come across many types of bottoms from both sides of the spectrum. Bottoms who had no walls cause they took more big dicks in their time and the anal canal was worn out. I call them Holland Tunnel bottoms. the hole so wide, and the canal so deep a top can only go through the motions and hope they have the sensitivity enough to reach a satisfying climax. 
On the other side of that spectrum are those bottoms who are mesmerized but big, thick and long dicks which they think they can take but sadly was rarely the case! Still they try, try, and try again.
Most often to no fault of the top that fall sucker to this type of bottom and are mostly left unsatisfied, and frustrated. Sometimes the tops are angry by this type of behavior which continues, and will force fuck the bottom which sets them out for criminal charges. No means no but when does no really yes? How does one even begin to make that determination? Risky shit if you ask me!
Accountability: Who holds the bottom accountable for teasing tops to the point he becomes aggressive, and take the azz until he nutz. No one hold those bottom responsible when they clearly set the scenario up and place the top in that situation. Legally no means no except when it mean yes, but law enforcement will not see the entire picture. When it's reported which is not often the bottom is viewed as the victim when in actuality it's really the top who has been victimized. in cases where the top is prosecuted on rape charges, convicted, sentence, and jailed. Upon release must be registered as a sex offender, and his is changed for ever.
the most simple solution that will make every one happy is for bottoms to chase after dicks they know is a good fit for them. too many times I have encountered bottoms who want my big black dick but know coming in they can take it. i have been left so frustrated. not by one but each time I eencounter this situation I grow more and more frustrated, and even angry at times. The end result for me is a total turn off to random sex partners who just want instant sexual gratification which no longer even excites me. I am glad I know the law as well as I do, and never take it too far that could place my life, my world in danger. I have how ever thought of pinning a bottom down and making them take this dick until I get my satisfaction. I exercised consequential thinking which  always made me change my mind.  
Their are more bottoms in this world then their are tops in my opinion, and if I keep searching I may one day find the right one that will stay and build something wonderful. Until that happens I will no doubt come across the sames frustrating bottoms I continue to encounter in this mission to find true love. (If it even still exist)  

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Seasonal Depression (Health & Wellness)

FYI: We are at the beginning of the season where symptoms of depression are on the rise. This can be a hard time of year for many including myself. Those who suffer from depression is not without power to limit the effects of it. Remember depression has no face, and can hide usually with humor, silliness & laughter (I know cause that's the face I put on)

You can:
Open up & talk about what's bothering you with some you know & trust or a paid professional like a therapist.

See your mental health professional for treatment

Suppression of your emotions/feelings is a road to disaster 

Seasonal Depression Symptoms

Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) may have some of the same signs and symptoms as other types of depression. The stress of anticipating the onset of SAD often results in the sufferer having anxiety months before SAD symptoms begin each year.
•Most people have only some of these symptoms, not all.
◦Depressed mood
◦Loss of interest in usually enjoyable activities
◦Fatigue or loss of energy
◦Feelings of worthlessness or hopelessness
◦Poor concentration, indecisiveness
◦Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide
•The symptoms of SAD come back every year, and for any specific person, they tend to come and go at about the same time each year.
•Winter SAD is typically characterized by
◦sleeping more than usual;
◦craving for sugar, starchy foods, or alcohol;
◦weight gain;
◦irritability;
◦conflicts with other people;
◦heaviness of arms and legs;
◦behavior disturbances (in children).
•People with winter SAD may seek out light places or sunlight, or like to have lots of artificial lights on.
•Summer SAD is generally accompanied by some of the following signs and symptoms:
◦Insomnia
◦Poor appetite
◦Weight loss
◦Agitation
◦Anxiety



(Disclaimer: Picture represents only an illustration & not the person with depression)
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The Choice Is Yours

The Choice Is Yours

During my reign as the face of the “No New Infections” HIV Campaign for a major Non Profit agency (Village Care New York) I did a feature on NY1’s “The Call” When given the last word I said “You have choices! You can choose to educate yourself about HIV, you can choose to open up a dialog to talk about HIV/AIDS, You can choose to use prevention materials such as condoms, you can choose to get tested & know your HIV status or you can choose to get HIV. The choice is yours. Choose wisely” This campaign was in 2003! This Campaign aired on most major local news broad cast & more than a few local radio stations.

The point of the campaign was to bring awareness to the growing number of new infections in demographic greatly affected by HIV, to push for education, dialog, and prevention. Women of color (Heterosexual) account for the highest number of new infection, followed by youths of color (MSM) 13-26, topped off by aging over 50.

HIV stops with you! No truer words were ever muttered from the lips of those on the front line trying to get HIV under control & bring an end to the numbers of new infection. HIV is preventable! What are you doing to avoid getting infected with HIV? Too often I am seeing many not using the tools they have at their disposal to avoid contracting the virus. 30 years ago many were contracted HIV before ever hearing the word. Back then what we knew about HIV was very little, but as we studied how it the virus worked, and how it mutates. We slowly started to learn how we can fight it, but this virus was sneaky & very smart & was finding ways to get around earlier treatments which AZT was the only treatment available during that time. Problem with that Tx is the early concept was to deliver high doses of Retrovir (AZT) to destroy it but it was so toxic this idea was not just killing infected cells but it was killing healthy cell, and ultimately patient would die from the toxicity.

Fact: No one has ever died from HIV or AIDS! What kills is all of the other diseases the body was can’t fight due to having a compromised immune system.
New drugs to treat HIV continued to come on the market after trials and FDA approvals as a better tool to treat HIV. Combination therapy became the new concept in fighting HIV. Attacking it from multiple directions seems to be working & today has slowed down the number of new infections. Greatly slowed down but has not bought it to a halt. Well not in every demographic! Some ethnicities have come further than others, but in people of color are being diagnosed with HIV on a regular base. This leads to the question of why is this when the education is now there, along with prevention materials, testing & the ability to open a dialog with each you encounter on a sexual level. So what is the problem?

·         Problems that are getting in the way of our community progressing to a point HIV is no longer an issue because have the virus under control is us. Let me explain! We are our own barrier!
·         Some don’t reach out to obtain the education that is provided in every neighborhood. The information is there!
·         HiV is so preventable but so many are not using the material provided to them free of charge in Dept of health & many local clinics & organizations.
·         Dialogs are not being opened to talk about HIV/STI’s
·         Some don’t want to know what their status is and avoid getting tested
·         Mental health is also a big factor
·         Drugs including alcohol plays a big part in new infections around the world
·         Medications are working so well many especial the young no longer think HIV is a threat or an issue
·         The misconceptions about being non detectable meaning you can’t contract HIV which is wrong.
·         Bug Chaser & Down Low cannot be left out because they are a factor as well.
·         Those not in care or have dropped out of care are a danger if they are not engaging in protected behavior

They’re making excuses like state issued condoms are cheap & break too easy. My favorite is I only use Magnums. As an educator I have taught people that if the condoms are breakings then they’re not using them correctly. I instruct them to put on a thin layer of lubrication before putting on the condom, make sure it fits snuggly around the shaft of the condom and the only space should be at the top for collection of their essence. This will also increase the sensitivity of their sexual experience.
Our greatest success is our greatest weakness! This was a statement that was made by a panelist at a conference in Albany I attended with my team. This means as I have already stated the treatments are working so well the real threat is over. Fewer & fewer people are dying unlike the earlier days so people are now taking greater risk because they think a pill can solve the problem, but what they don’t realize is 1 pill turns in to 5 & 5 turns to 15 and so on to combat side effects of that one pill. Are you ready?
The danger is not over yet, but we can strike a might blow towards bring to an end new infection & hopefully one day we can say HIV/AIDS has been total eradicated. Until that day come please educate yourself, use protection, talk about & know your HIV status by getting tested.
The Choice truly is yours & I hope you choose wisely.

HIV Stops with you, no matter who you are or where you come from. You are either infected or affected. It takes a community of the world to save the world.

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All Good Things Comes To an End Carlito to Parts Ways

All Good Things Comes To an End


All good things must come to an end! You can have your fun & play in the fields, Fuck until you are blue, but just like a flower will weather away so does the careers of porn models.

Arnez A.K.A. Carlito has recently announced his retirement from the porn industry at the end of 2013.

Post by Carlito Sho-Nuff Versatile.


What? No more Carlito to get my juices flowing! I can tell you he has always been my favorite porn model & have bust many a nutts to seeing him sucking, fucking & getting fucked. Many times I wish it was I getting that yum yum honey dip.

I talk to Arnez (Carlito) on the phone to get the scoop & he said he has basically grown out of it. At age 27 he is calling it a wrap after only 9 years in the industry. He has worked for a few porn production companies & last I know to be Chocolate Crème. He also stated he wanted to more on to newer & better things life has to offer.
 


When asked what’s next he said he is in his second year semester of college & ultimately want to study in the field of Social work or maybe film production (Not for porn industry) Interesting thing is many porn model has retired only to build their own porn production companies. Tiger Tyson & Billy Blake just to name a couple! The porn industry is very profitable, but Arnez’s passions to do other things have win out over the whole sucking & fucking idea. Kudos to you!

I asked him his favorite moment in the industry & he stated Blatino Oasis as being the high light of his career. When asked the reverse to this question he could not come up much. He has had favorite co-stars & decline to answer questions about his worst. I respect industry secrets & decided not to probe him deeper. He did offer drug abuse affecting his personal life as a turning point in his career. He like so few was able to rise above it & get back on his path. I commend him for I have had the same struggles.
I asked if there was someone special in his life he admitted to being single. It’s not clear if he is in the market to find a good man he can settle down with. If he does he already knows he can look my way cause I would have him for better or ………………….

His celebrity keeps him out of the clubs because he can’t have an enjoyable time being known to the public as he is. During our first interview a couple of years ago he did admit to being drugged, kidnapped & waking up far from home in another state. Sadly this can be the cost of celebrity when you have groupies wanting to have the experiences they see in films. Thanks God this did not turn out worse. He is not the only one who has had this experience.

Another I talks to who I can’t name in the industry found himself on the bad side of a hook up. When he arrived to meet his date he was greeted by not one but two! He too was drugged & penetrated with foreign objects. The price of fame can be too high if you’re not careful.

Most porn models usually relocate to a place where they are less known so when I asked Carlito if that was in his plan he said “not at this point”. After finishing with his schooling he may or may not decide to stay in New York. I personally hope he stays forever.

During Carlito’s career he was featured in campaigns designed in encourage HIV testing to protect your sexy! This campaign was created by GMAD (Gay Men of African Descent) they could not have chosen a better poster boi for this public campaign.

So in conclusion I wish Arnez (Carlito Sho Nuff Versatile) all the best in all of his future endeavors.

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