Bloggables: 2009

I am what I am!I can’t be who I want to be!

Why oh why do many men continue to identify themselves as Bisexual when they have not been with the opposite sex in many years, and express they have no desire to be with a female, but continue identifying as bisexual.

So Why Identify as Bisexual instead of Gay?

What do you think?

Why does this behavior exist?

Is it more socially acceptable to identify as Bisexual? Is it ones way of staying connected to the heterosexual community? Only you can answer that question for yourself.

(Why ID at all)

Maybe it is easier to lie to ones self; making it easier to lie to those around you!

(Why ID at all)

In this age of sexual openness why keep up the lie, and give the people around you the misconception of being something you no longer are?

(Why ID at all)

I do this much the sigma’s, and discriminations that are attached to identifying yourself as Gay can be too much to some to deal with, and saying I am Bi sexual is might be more socially acceptable. Is it really? I guess that would depend on who you are trying to gain the acceptance of. Some are totally okay with the choices others make for their own lives, and then you have those who have a one track minded way of thinking. They are such unfortunates! I have very strong feeling about those people because they totally take away the chance of not only getting to know a good person, but they also make other feel uncomfortable about themselves. They say things like “That is nasty” or “You are going to burn in hell”, and my person favorite “The bible says man is made to be with a woman” When they say that one I take great pleasure in asking if God himself told you that. Of course they say no so I tell them to let me know when get the official word from God himself. Until that time please don’t tell me about the bible and what was meant according to God. The bible was written by man, and it is man that interprets it based on their own need to manipulate the minds of others.

The ones I am most disturbed by are Gay who feels they have an obligation to out those who are not yet ready to come out. They will have sex with a bi-sexual man, a closeted man, or a man on the down low, and spread the word. They tell their friends who tell the next one until it gets back to the dudes girlfriend, family, home boys, and co workers. That is just wrong! So I can’t put all of the blame of ignorance, sigmas, and discriminations totally on the heterosexual community. We play a vital role in this as well. We are help to stigmatize our kind, because we are sending the wrong message to the greater community. When we out others who are not ready to come out we hurt the chances of them becoming comfortable with the idea of being Gay, and just because we have found our level of comfort with ourselves doesn’t mean other have or should have the same comfort. Everybody has their own process, and must be granted the right to make their own choices. We have to let them come out when it is right the time for them, and not when we think it is the right time.

There is one area where I think it should be all about the person, and he should be given much room to be selfish, self centered and self serving. (I know I said the same thing 3 times, but it needed to be repeated). We should not empower ourselves to make that decision for them or try to force them in out into the open. When we do that we only succeed in pushing them not only further into the closet, but right into the arms of females. We take away the possibility of them ever embracing the lifestyle of a Gay man. Is that what we want? So be patient, and it may happen one day. We have to create an environment that is patient, loving, and accepting. I personal tell a man who struggles with their sexuality that it is okay to stay confined, and in a shell. When you are ready to come out of your shell you will find a wealth of love just waiting for you. At times I don’t always think I’m being honest, but I am showing the best parts of our community. Even though I know not everyone in our Gay community is the greatest of people. I won’t peg everyone as sneaky, conniving, and manipulative, but I am honest enough to say those type of people do exist in our community.

People need to keep in mind that a man who has these feelings may never come out, and it is more comfortable to live a double life. I believe it is not an honest way to live but it is what it is, and we can either accept it or not, but we don’t have the right force another to do anything they are not ready to do for themselves. It is our responsibility to give them support and help them along with their personal process as they see fit to allow our assistance. Nothing more, and nothing less!

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2009 Out Music Awards

The OMA’s was a great event, and I had a wonderful time! I was not only an observer, and I was a presenter as well. I always have a great time whenever I attend an event at Webster Hall located in the fabulous East Village at 125 East 11^th Street. From the Red Carpet to the Pre-show to the Gala hosted by Rodney Chester of Noah’s Arc, and Kate Clinton an out comedienne , and right down to the after party at the Upscale Grace Hotel at 125 West 45^th Street

So many people lined up to walk the Red Carpet, and as a member of Gay Media now with 5 Media outlets, and a Youtube show in the works I was blessed to be a part of seeing GLBT music artist of many genre’s. Even though I knew these artists exist I have never had the opportunity to meet, and see them in person. Some I was to have met, but many I didn’t get that chance to make a formal introduction. This is just the start, and I am sure I will meet more and more of them in the future. I was not sure if I was allowing the Beautiful Boyz of Prides World Podcast Show (The Pride Cast Show) to come back for 3^rd season, but after the OMA’s it was clear to me the show must continue. I am needed, and still work to do! The Work I have been doing for some time now must not end. I have to continue to support the out artist where ever Possible. So far I have only been exposed to mostly the Hip Hop artist, and enjoy playing their music on my show. I do play the tracks of Jesse O, Nohjj, and a few other artists of different genres. After all my show is based on balance! In the third season I seek to move away from mainstream music, and re-format my show to support all The Out artists in the genres I feature. The Homo Hop Monday show is already all out, but my pop, R&B, and weekend show needs more out artist to make my vision a reality. Not so much the weekend show because I feel house/techno music is Gay anyway. My disco show will remain unchanged after all was not the Gay culture built around disco, or we can even say the foundation of our joy of music started there.

The Pre show was great too! What way to kick off an event this big. Many of socialites and friends came out in support of the OMA’s and packed the house. This area of Webster Hall used for this portion of the show was the party hall I’m sure that’s used for smaller partis that not so small. The room was packed! When the pre show started there were technical difficulties. No microphone, but these things are to be expected at events this big. Once that issue was resolved the hosts were able to speak & be heard, but prior to getting the mic I was afraid for the voices of our hosts. I will say I thought they did magnificent job, and I was engage as the awards were handed out. Some of the awards were present at the pre show, and the rest were handed out at the gala. I will tell you this baby. The sexy De Marco Majors, and co host Julie kept my attention. De Marco I must say as a Gay man really captured attention, and held it.

Wow! What a fine specimen of man. Of course the handsome former pro basket ball player and first out player in Bball was wearing much more at the awards. I however was compelled to show his sexy in these pictures I found o f him on line.

The costumes some wore were incredible! Here’s a couple of pictures of what I wish you were there for.

The Gala was yet again packed in the main auditorium of the club. I enjoyed Rodney Chester. I found him to be very engaging, but I wish I had seen him more throughout the night. So many out artists performed in their perspective genres, and I was all in as they played their guitars, beat on drums, tickle the keys on their keyboards, and worked the microphones. First the first time Out Hop was included in OMA’s, and it was a joy to see so many of the out Hip Hop artist turn out for this event. Many of them I was blessed enough to see throughout the night, but because the house was so packed I did not get to see them all. I did hear from my sources they were in the house. Sonny Lewis (Lou Bang), Bone Intell, King Jabbar, and Soce The Elemental Wizard. JR the self proclaimed King of Gay music who I had the honor of being his host was not only in the house, but preformed some of his track “I’m Addicted to Boys”. He shook his azz all over the stage (Joy). He shared the stage with Tori Fixx who I was within inches of but was not able to make a connection. I understand how stressing it is on a night like this, and many suffered from tunnel vision, and focused on getting done what they were there to do. Great job to you and the other hip hop artist who preformed, and made this a night to remember. I was blessed to be a presenter for outstanding Hip Hop/Rap Song alongside DJ Baker from the Doo Dirty Show. I was an honor to be a presenter, and I have to give much love to Deepa Soul who also preformed. Again I did not get to see her do her thing, but classy lady she has represented to me I am more than sure she turned it out. Damn my phobia of being in large crowned places for long periods of time had me running in and out for air. I know I need to over it, but it what it is.

For Outstanding hip Hop/Rapp Artist the nominees Are:

· Jasper James

· Baron

· Mack Mistress

· Soce, the Elemental Wizard

· Tori Fixx

And the winner for Outstanding Hip/Hop Artist is: Jasper James

Here is the Utube clip of the performance in the Hip Hop/Rapp Genre. I was how ever surprised that no NYC based Out Hip Hop artist preformed on that stage. Why was NYC artist not representing the host city of the Out Music Awards? Hmmmmmmmmmm!

The high light of the night for me was meeting two legends. Willie Ninja, and Kevin Aviance. Kevin who was there to accept the life time achievement award was his forever entertaining self. I am sad to say I did not get to see him accept his award, but I did have the pleasure of seeing, and chatting with him before the Red Carpet when he arrived which I was already there escorting JR to the sound check. I was also blessed to have a moment with him at the after party as he was all dolled up, and got a photo op shot by Dex Star G who has not posted the pictures on his blog yet. Here is one did get before Kevin got into costume.

Another big high light was meeting certain member from Vogue Evolution. I’ve been trying to get an interview with them for some time shortly after their banner fell from the stage of “American Best Dance Crew” I was so not happy with that or Lil Mama’s disrespect of the transgendered lead member Naomi. I have direct contact with their manager, and will be trying to get interview to share them with all of you. I love when my people break ground for us

To top off the night the after party at the Grace Hotel was really nice too and I love the company I was in. Because of a miscommunication at Webster Hall when it came to the open bar the music academy more than made up for it with the free vodka at the after party. Baby I was done by the third drink!

Logo filmed this event, and I will be looking forward to seeing how they covered this event. I can’t help but to feel Hip Hop will be edited out all together, but Need not project on what I don’t yet know. Even if not I was still bless to be a part of this blessed event.

Special acknowledgements to: Tammy Peay, and Lawrence Pinckney (Nubian Dreams Cruise). Much love to Dwight and most of his cast (Christopher Street TV), Maurice Runea & Romeo (The Show), Nathan 7, Nathan James, Taylor Siluwe, JoJo who escorted me to this event, Eric Joppy, E.J. Parker. Shout out to those who won tickets as a result listening to my show. Big up’s to Waddie Grant, Diedra T. Meredith (Deepa Soul), and the entire Out Music Academy.

I'd like to thanks the Out Music Academy for allowing me to be part of this festive event, and I am looking forward to being a part of it next year.

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Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Yell!!!!!!!

Disclaimer: This blog is geared to shed light on an issue that has been made wrong to the very people who serve and love our country. This blog is designed to show the differences between the Gay & heterosexual communities. Pictures used in this blog are merely illustrations of what Military is, and what they look like, and wear. There is no difference besides the fact of which people chose to sleep with. Pictures used may or may not be of actual Gay people.

Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell, Yell!!!!!!!

“America The Land Of The Free”

Or should it read

“America The Land Of The Free Unless You’re Same Gender Loving GLBTQ”

The SGL/GLBT has faced some serious challenges in America and abroad. Marriage equality, equality in general, and discrimination protection! Discrimination in Employment, and housing! Protections from violence as a result of our lifestyle! All of these barriers has angered me, and made me mad on the highest level. Nothing has pissed me off as much as Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.

The biggest question I have asked in relation to DADT is how did it ever come to pass? Based on my research the first recorded dishonorable discharge was in 1778 by Lieutenant Frederick Gotthold Enslin was (with the approval of General George Washington dishonorably discharged following a conviction of homosexual sodomy and perjury

The passing of DADT came about during the Clinton administration in 1993 in which he promised while campaigning for his presidency to allow all citizens regardless of sexual orientation to serve openly in the military. (What Happen?)

While researching materials for this blog I found this quote from posted in the New York Times.
Sexual orientation will not be a bar to service unless manifested by homosexual conduct. The military will discharge members who engage in homosexual conduct, which is defined as a homosexual act, a statement that the member is homosexual or bisexual, or a marriage or attempted marriage to someone of the same gender.– quoted in "The Pentagon's New Policy Guidelines on Homosexuals in the Military", The New York Times (July 201993)

Many times during the course of political figures seeking office makes these promises on the road to winning their seat, and after winner forget they have an obligation to keep their word.
Now we are in the Obama administration, and he has said the same things. He has claimed he will work towards the equality of all mankind under the constitution of United States. He has promised while campaigning to pass laws against discrimination against people based on sexual orientation, Gender Identity, and Gender Expression. He has also promised to fight for marriage equality. He has also promised & taken steps to repeal DADT.
DADT has been on the forefront of our president’s agenda, and I must say he is making ground in its process. He has also made progress on some of the other issues he has promised to with towards. Much more work needs to be done, and I know its not possible to complete in only one term.

Our mission as a community of same gender loving people, and those who love & support us is to get in the faces of out politicians, lawmakers, and representative, democrats, republicans, independents, liberals, conservatives, and last our faiths based institutions, and inform them of all the contributions we make to our society. They need a reality check that we do all of the things people of Heterosexuals communities do. The fact is we are no different! I can give you a list of things we do that is the same as the people who oppose us, but you know I have to list everything in the world so it is pointless. The only difference I find in the SGL community that is different from the hetero community is we choose to love people of the same sex. Everything else is exactly the same. Right on down to taxes we pay. If everybody in this world makes the same contributions then why are not granted the equality we have worked hard for and deserve.
DADT is wrong & former President Bill Clinton knew it as he was signing that bill making it a law. To add insult to injury he said it was a means to an end. People can feel free to be who there are as long as it is in secret, in the shadows, and behind closed doors. SGL people and straight people alike put our lives on the line to fight for this thing we call democracy. We die in the name of freedom, and told we can’t be free. Where the since of accomplishment for us? I don’t see it in any shape, form or fashion.

In conclusion If we can’t feel free to live our lives in the open & in the light then why show we be willing to give our live in the name of freedom, and democracy when it is not meant for us. Why are we making the same contributions, and paying the same taxes, but being told we can’t reap the same benefits as heterosexuals do. The constitution was written for the equality of all Americans. I ask when do we get to the equality?

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Damaged!!!!!!!!!

Damaged

Is every man in the world damaged or is just the ones who want to date me?

Every time I have met someone over the past few years that I really like has come to me some kind of damage, or baggage. They come to me with real desire to be loved, but also come afraid of giving me their all because of the past relationships they have had. It never fails every new person that touches my life I have to do some kind of damage control, or fix them as the case usually is.

Sometime they come to me with many issues that I feel I have to pay for the mistakes, or messed up relationship of their past. These guys come with beautiful personalities, but because of the wrongs that has been done to them in they’re past relationships. They have been lied to, cheated on, and in some cases suffered from domestic violence. Some come with issues of either needing to control or a need to be controlled. The worst case is when they come with all or most of these issues.

Why do I have to be the one to fix you? This is a question I frequently ask myself as I determine whether or not I want to invest my time and all of that energy into you with no guarantee of a positive result or ever the possibility of getting him over that difficult time. He can’t give himself to me totally until he has gotten over the issues from his past.

How do you help a man who has been so damaged by others which makes it hard to have a productive relationship with him with the absence of all that baggage of the past? One way is to suggest therapy, but we all know that does not always work. Most of the time I tell them they are giving too much of their power to the past, and the people who causes them pain. Ultimately I stand by them and help them to take their power back. It can be s timely process if it is attainable at all.

The biggest part of my problem with this is how many lumps should I take in the name of winning your heart before I throw in the towel, and give up? The fact is I have never won in this situation, which in turn leaves me damaged on some level, but not that damaged that I am, not willing to try again. I however am aware of this, and don’t let it consume me nor do I make the next person pay it. I have come across a few people who are so detached from romance, and the idea of that they can handle nothing more than a day of sexual attention with one person. The suggestion of having more with that person is enough to send them running to a safe place. A place that is as far away from that person as they can get. The damaged goes from being damaged to causing damage, and leaves that man to doubt himself. He asks himself what is wrong with me? What did I do to make him go away? See the damaged one who leaves another damaged never takes the time to say I only want a jump off, or hook up. They rarely enforce the fact that they not able to invest in another so the other does not invest in him. Sad thing is they rarely even have enough courage or respect to tell you that is not the road they wish to travel, and rather then say so they run. This is a cowardly act, but not everybody knows how to deal with conflict, and find it easier just t walk away

Many if not all are damaged in some way. Who is the most damaged? Bi sexual people some might argue are the most damaged, and I have disagreed in every conversation I have had with others. At least they are honest about liking both men & women, but all have said to me they only see one or the other, and do not juggle both at the same time. I am not always a believer that this is true, and choose not to date, invest, or get serious with a bi sexual man. I will however hook up with one just to satisfy sexual needs. Hard to invest in these men cuz in my mind there is always a chance they will leave me to be with a female, and that is inconceivable to me.

I can’t write this bloggable about the damaged ones, and not include the down low boyz. They are in my opinion the most damaged. I feel this way because they are living a lie. They are living a double life, and rarely are honest to his female covers about their desire to be with a man. I have never known one to be this honest but that does not mean they do not exist. They want a relationship with a man but never allow it to go beyond the confines of indoors. This really sucks on so many levels to feel like, and be treated like a secret that needs to be kept. Sad thing is many of us settle for kind of existence. Not I! I have no problem outside of missing honesty component, but to hook up with a DL boyz is fine but only instant sexual gratification. We cum, and you go!

I have broken it down as much as I can about the damage others comes with. What I did not talk about is my own damage, and yes I too much like most if not all others have some kind of damage. Point is some handle it better then others. I am aware of my own damage, and being aware of it is half the battle.

I have damage that might make the typical liars, cheaters, and controllers look like child’s play in comparison. From age 6 to 16 I was beaten, molested, and tortured by my older brother. I never sought any kind therapy for this difficult time in my life, which would leave scared for life. Scared not just from the cuts, and lifetime scare, but leave me mentally scared as well. It is the mental scares that leave the damage, and not the physical ones. In the 1970’s & 80’s perms were very popular amongst females. Revlon was the perm of choice, and during that time the active ingredient in it was lye. My abuser use Revlon perm as a lube to fuck me, and as a result were I burnt internally, and externally. I healed from that experience, but the mental scaring is on going, and may never heal. Point is that even many years later I will not allow anyone to get close to my azz. The damage is in trust! Even when I healed I was at one point versatile many years ago, and because I was not treated in the manner I felt I should be. I pulled that side of myself back until such a time as I find a man to treat me right. 27 years, still counting, and waiting.

In conclusion it takes a big man to know he is damaged, but it takes a bigger man to deal with it. Where are you damaged, and how you deal to deal with it?

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Below the Equator

Wearing your pants below the equator can be hot, and sexy to some, but to others it is frown on big time. I am going to take this time to talk about this highly controversial issue.

For starters most people don’t even know where this behavior originated from, and I too at some have no clue, but like the look on some & not other. Prison is where it started! If you have ever been to prison you know the take your belt, and shoe laces away from you don’t get the idea to hang yourself as a means to an end. Not having on a belt cause the pants to sag of the azz, and the lower you sagged the more meaning it had behind the walls. If you wore your pant totally off your azz that meant you were looking for a husband, but all of the is debatable. Worn part way or fully off the azz it definitely give me a reason to look at your azz.

Many people in political positions of power have attempted to makes law that would make the cultural behavior illegal, and pose stiff punishments to those who are violation of this dress code. President Obama said it best! “I have better things to do than impose laws to make people wear the pants up, but on a personal level pull up your pants”. Your mothers, grandmothers don’t want to see your azz. I have to agree with him on some levels about this behavior, but I also have to play the devils advocate, and say it is a personal right for people to wear their pant in any way they wish. If you have a problem with see someone’s azz you have the choice to not look, but please don’t tell me how to wear my pants, what to do, or how to act. It is my choice, and I o as I wish.

What is the age that saggin pants becomes inappropriate? Again it a personal choice! In my opinion at my age I would not wear my pants below the equator, but I have seen many people my age and older who do this, and at a curtain age to me it does not look right. I think this a behavior that looks better on our youth than it does on an older man.

The reason I feel this is a youthful behavior is simply because we all at some point in our lives set out to make a statement that is original, and unique to that time. It is a cultural thing, and each generation tries to make it own contributions. I am not going to say what my generation contributed because that will affectively age me, and I have grown sensitive about my age in recent years.

As a Gay man I can appreciate when I see a younger man wearing their pants off their azz. There are lines that some cross that makes this code of dress less than flattering. Like seeing an old man do it, or someone that is over a curtain weight. Even though I respect their right to do this I sometimes wonder if they take a good look in the mirror before leaving out for the day. Maybe they do, and just don’t care how they look, or maybe they seek that kind of attention. I can’t imagine why they would do that but whatever works inside of their heads is fine with me. The ones that really make me laugh hard are those who sag & be wearing dingy/dirty drawz. I even have seen one guy who was sporting the latest in skid marks. What a fashion statement he was making.

One of the things I find interesting about saggin pants is seeing female following along this line of dress. I really have no opinion on this one, but I will say I find very few heterosexual females doing this, and more Lesbians joining this fashion craze. I guess anything that represents boyz behavior is the direction aggressive lesbians go. Whether right or wrong it does not solely belong to men, and they have the right to do this as well.

At the end of the day I really enjoy imagining what’s beyond those sagging pants. Could be an awful, or incredible sight to see. So continue to wear your pants below the equator, and allow me the pleasure to continue to look at that bump. This will allow me to continue to wonder what is beyond those falling pants.

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