Many times I have had to endure seeing this behavior within the heterosexual community. It has burned me up inside each time I see this display, and thought of my inability to share the same experiences with the one I am seeing at the time. The stigmas, discriminations, and personal beliefs that are attached are the blame. It frustrates the hell out of me that we can’t honor our significant other in the same way as heterosexuals do. Even the lesbian community has made more ground in that area. It was easy for them as most things are in that community. I am not saying it is all peaches, and roses, but they do have it much better than Gay men. Two female walk down the street walking hand and hand, and they are looked at as not much more than girlfriends, and most people doesn’t pay it a second mind. Beside what straight man do you know doesn’t at some point fantasize about some girl on girl action. Two females walking down the street hand and hand; show affection for one another might not be girlfriends. They might be lovers! If a girl touches another female bubs in the name of comparing cup size is acceptable, but you don’t see men grabbing each other jock straps comparing cup size. Even in straight clubs females are even free to dance without it being given another look. Point is the foundation has been laid for female where none has been laid for men.
No I am not trying to come off as a hater, or as Alfalfa from the Little Rascals as the president of the female haters club. I am just demonstrating the difference between the two.
As a Gay man will I ever see the day where I will too be free to express myself to another man without the looks, snickers, comments from people who do not have the ability to accept the life style of those that are different?
Men can these days display affection for one another outwardly, and in the open but these displays are localized to one area of our city, and one area of most big metropolitan cities. These areas are referred to as boyz towns, or the villages of those prospective cities. I have much respect for those who dare to go against the grain, and will display their feelings anywhere, and any time. I myself have not had a problem showing my affection any place, but I have had to deal the negative comments, and looks. I may have never had violence from those who hate what I am doing, but I do know of many who were not so lucky.
There is an absence of laws designed to protect us, and more than often where there are discrimination laws in place fall on the death ears of our police departments. In many cases they fall short due to the same stigmas, discriminations, and personal views as mentioned earlier.
What can we do to make sure our rights are being protected?
The truth is we can’t do much more than what is already being done, or can we? In order the keep the pressure on our politicians, and representatives we have come together as a united front, demonstrate, write letter, Demand we have justice for our victim, and bring home the point the we are people too, and should be protected just as anyone else is. We must the contributions we make to our society, force our representatives to fight for stiffer penalties for those who violate others rights, and demand we not be treated as substandard citizens. These actions will take the power of all of us, and this includes Gay, Lesbian, Bi-sexual, Transgenders, and even the Down Low. If we continue to fade into the background, hide in the shadows, and walk only under the cover of night we will never get our constitutional rights delivered.
Equality is written into the Constitution for all Americans, and should apply to all Americans in which equality is guaranteed under that very Constitution. It is written!
We can sit back and allow other to fight our fight for us, and than jump on the bandwagon after the battle is over, and we have finally won, or you can get involved, and let our battle really mean something to you. The battle is not just mine it belongs to you too.
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gorgeous image at the beginning of this post. and good thoughts.
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